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Recovery Support Groups in the Church

By on June 21st, 2013

1groupHow do “support groups” help church members who are struggling with addiction and other life issues?

A. “Support groups” are not a new idea for the Church — John Wesley’s “Rules for Small Groups,” written in 1816, is an outline that embodies “the Method” from which the name “Methodist” came. This method resulted in one of the greatest revivals the world has ever known. Believers gathered together in small groups, sharing honestly, becoming accountable to one another, asking probing questions, praying for one another with a deep knowledge of their mutual needs and struggles. Any believer can benefit from this type of gathering. It can be a tremendously healing and encouraging experience for those in recovery.

B. Benefits of church members participation in support groups — Ideally, a good support group is, first, a place where recovering addicts will find true acceptance and a sense of what unconditional love is all about. It is a safe, non-judgmental setting where they can express struggles, thoughts, ideas, and feelings without fear of rejection. Hearing the stories of others with similar difficulties and how they overcame them, gives the struggling addict great encouragement to go on in a life of sobriety. Healthy support groups can provide a sort of “family” atmosphere that stimulates the hope for a better life in all involved. Because addiction wreaks havoc upon an individual’s relationships with others, a good support group is a wonderful place for recovering addicts to begin the difficult and painful process of re-connecting with other people.

C. How to identify a good support group — Overcoming the lingering affects of addiction and moving into the fullness of the abundant life is an involved, long-term process. Fortunately, in recent years we have witnessed the growth of Christian support groups. Those who use the Twelve Steps originally developed by Alcoholics Anonymous seem to be the most effective. In many ways, support groups are like churches – all are not the same. Some are very closed and even hostile toward Christianity. Others are very open. Actually, there are even many AA groups meeting throughout the country that even call themselves “Christian AA groups.”

Before people from recovery programs attend a particular AA meeting or other support group, a staff person should make one or two personal visits to the meetings. A list of approved meetings that program participants are encouraged to attend should be developed. When a support group will be meeting at a local congregation, it is important for the pastor or someone in senior leadership to meet personally with those who will be leading the group. It is critical that they have confidence in the maturity, sobriety, and spiritual commitment of the group’s leaders. It is also important to set down guidelines for conducting the group in the church facility well before the meetings begin.

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Motivating Addiction Recovery Program Participants (Part 2)

By on June 20th, 2013

 

Chapel services at KCRM

When I came to Kansas City in 1990 and my focus turned from direct involvement to training people to become addition counselors and helping them to manage more effective programs. However, I’ve stayed in touch with the “hands on” dimension of recovery work by volunteering at local rescue missions and for other organizations that help addicts and their families. Conducting chapel services for program participants and interacting with them is something I always look forward to doing.

One local mission, the Kansas City Rescue Mission, where Joe Colaizzi serves as executive director, is an example of a rescue mission recovery program that is doing a lot of things right. Their recent follow-up efforts reveal that for three years running, 70% of their graduates are still sober for year or more after leaving the mission. This is a very good rate of success. So, what are some of the things they are doing to promote such success?

A. They have a well-organized program — A “program” is best defined as “the planned, organized, and systematic delivery of services — using both internal and external resources— with the goal of meeting the unique needs of each individual.” The key words are “planned” and “systemic.” This means that everyone – staff, administration, volunteers, and clients — are all “reading off the same page.” At the Kansas City Rescue Mission, everyone knows what is expected – what staff members expect of residents and what residents can expect of staff members. Their daily schedule is clear and events begin on time. Their rules, which kept to a minimum, are well established and upheld equitably. Since sobriety is rule number one, any use of intoxicating substance leads to immediate dismissal with possible readmission after a predetermined time, 30 days in most cases. Being well organized means minimizing external distractions and “game-playing” and keeps people focused on working on themselves. The Kansas City Rescue Mission has achieved something very special — the men in the program are so committed to recovery that it is “self-regulating.” As a result, people who do not want to recover don’t stay. And, the staff members are spending most of their time helping people instead of enforcing rules.

B. They are not “re-inventing the wheel” — To assist our member missions, when I worked at the Association of Gospel Rescue Missions, we published a resource in 1993 called A Guide to Effective Rescue Mission Recovery Programs. The principles contained in this 12 tape staff training tool are well established and proven to work in the treatment and rescue mission recovery field. (available free online here) The Kansas City Rescue Mission has fully implemented our suggestions. They use regularly updated written client recovery plans. Their classes include relapse prevention and other addiction-specific topics, along with Biblical. And, they have well-defined phases through which participants progress. These phases are not simply time-based, but are instead based on residents attaining specific recovery-oriented goals, as contained in their written recovery plans, if they are to move into higher stages of the program. Program people are motivated by instruction and activities that “get right down to where they live”. If we are dealing with the real, pressing areas of need in their lives, they will be more committed to the process. This is how we show them we understand them and are, ourselves, committed to helping them to become all God wants them to be.

C. They help program participants to recognize their progress and celebrate with them over it. – One of the most important duties of mission staff members is to maintain an environment that encourages people to make changes in their lives. A big part of this is rewarding people for making good choices that lead in a godly direction. I saw this in practice during a recent program chapel service at the Kansas City Rescue Mission. Every month they recognize those who have some months of “clean time” by giving out AV chips during their chapel services. And, those who are moving to a higher phase in their programs receive a printed certificate to recognize and acknowledge their progress. Program participants are always more motivated when we give them “benchmarks” by which their progress can be measured. They need to feel they are getting somewhere and not just biding their time at the mission. Developing written recovery plans with regular reviews and updates will accomplish this. And, just as KCRM does, we need to reward them for attaining them. More than anywhere on earth, rescue missions ought to be filled with the type of joy and celebration we see in the father of the prodigal son. He exalted over his son who was lost and now is found. A simple little plastic coin or computer-printed certificate given to them in front of their peers may not be a fatted calf or golden ring. But, they can mean a lot to someone who has been experiencing nothing but failure for years on end. Let’s be sure to find creative ways to recognize and celebrate even small changes and right decisions.

(Most of this article originally appeared in Rescue Magazine January/February 1997 AGRM)

See also Part 1   and   Part 3 of this series.

 

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Fundraising: Where Do I Start?

By on June 18th, 2013

Times are changing. In our present economy, nonprofit organizations that once relied on government and grant funding are looking to individual donors for a greater percent of their operating revenues.

Truthfully, if done right, building and nurturing a base of committed givers can provide a stable, long-term source of revenue.   It’s going to take some time and research but it will be well worth the effort.

Too many people have a “home run” mentality when it comes to fundraising; the notion that there’s some mysterious benefactor out there who’s going to drop a big gift in their lap that will fund their dreams. Sorry, people usually do not usually want to support someone they don’t know. It’s the ones who know you best and who already feel a tremendous amount of good will for you and affinity with your organization and its mission that are most likely to give you money.

If you want donations, start with the “low hanging fruit” — those who are within arm’s reach. Here are your hottest prospective donors, listed in order of the most likely to give:

1) Those who have already donated.   Compile a list of those who have given previously with names and contact information plus the amounts they gave.   Pay special attention to which projects or appeals they’ve responded to.   This will help you tailor the right approach to them.   Remember, since they’ve already demonstrated a willingness and a capacity to donate, they will probably do it again if asked appropriately!

2) Talk to board members about making regular gifts.   I recently talked with a board member who said, “You want me to donate?   Isn’t it enough for me to give my time and my advice?”   My response was, “Haven’t you heard ‘where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.'”   In other words, where we direct our money shows exactly what we truly care about in our lives.   Board members are intimately acquainted with your nonprofit and its needs. So, they ought to be the ones most likely to invest in it financially.

3) What about the friends and family members of your staff and board members?   The old adage goes, “People support people, not causes.”   Those who know us best are often excited to support those whom they care about and good causes in which we are involved. This could be done by simply asking staff and board members to provide you with names, “snail mail” addresses and email addresses.   Additionally, they could be encouraged to invite those same people to visit the organization in person or to attend a fund raising event.

4) Then there’s your volunteers.   Like the board member I just mentioned, some nonprofit leaders think, “They’re giving us their time. Isn’t that enough?”   Well, the fact that they care enough about your cause to actually get involved makes them among the most likely donors!   Of course, we don’t ever want to use a “hard sell” approach with volunteers, friends or family members.   Just don’t automatically assume they wouldn’t want to contribute.   We need to make sure they are given the opportunity to participate.   You might be surprised at what a good response you will receive!

5) People who have been truly helped by your work and those who have a loved one or friend who has been helped.   Have you saved all the letters of people who said they have been helped or blessed by your program’s services or your own writing or speaking?   Guess what, they are very likely to support you financially as well!

6) Lastly, how about individuals you have met face-to-face?   People who have been in your presence, seen your face, heard you speak and felt your passion and vision are also the most likely to give money to support your organization.     Making a donation is more of an emotional response than an intellectual one.   People love to give to people they have met and with whom they feel a close tie.   We live in a new age when it comes to charitable giving.   Younger donors want to get up close and personal with people they respect and admire – those who are doing things they really care about.   So, how about thinking of ways to get them on-site at your organization’s facilities?

Nothing can be more moving than actually seeing the people you serve and feeling their needs and watching you meet them firsthand every day. Finally, let me tell you about an essential tool for starting effective fund raising – Developing Your Case for Support by Timothy L. Seiler.   It is a workbook that will help you to gather and organize all of the critical information about your organization you will need to confidently ask people to give to your work.